There’s just no way around it: betrayals hurt. Whether you’ve been betrayed by a partner or a friend, it’s difficult to recover.
The good news is, however, there are things you can do to help speed up your recovery, so you can move on with your life and even look forward to a brighter future.
So how can you heal your heart, body, and spirit after a betrayal?
○ Trying to ignore a betrayal traps everything inside you and can stop you from healing.
○ It’s important to address the issues and learn to manage them. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You’ll learn to move past the betrayal, especially if you help heal yourself.
2. Forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness is crucial to healing. Forgiving someone is all about you – not the person who betrayed you. You’re the one who benefits the most. The other person doesn’t even need to know.
○ Forgive yourself, your past mistakes, and the person who betrayed you.
3. Avoid using betrayal as revenge. Are you thinking about betraying the person who hurt you? You may be tempted to seek revenge after you’re hurt, but you risk damaging yourself even more.
○ This thoughts process is dangerous and can prevent you from healing. Revenge isn’t the answer. It adds more negativity to your life.
○ Revenge can trap you in an unhealthy cycle with the person who hurt you. First, they hurt you; then you hurt them, then they hurt you back, then you hurt them again. Where does it end?
4. Connect with others. You may enjoy connecting with others who have been hurt. Consider support groups or group therapy.
○ By talking about the past, you can learn to heal the wounds of betrayal. You can see how others have overcome their pain and use their advice.
5. Remove negative people. You may be better off by cutting off all contact with the betrayer and other negative people in your life. Sometimes, it helps to remove these toxic people to regain your strength and heal.
○ Negative people can affect your healing process. They can serve as constant reminders of the pain and betrayal. You’ll feel lighter and healthier without them.
○ If it’s not workable to remove them from your life, limit your contact with them as much as possible.
6. Learn to control your feelings. It’s normal to cry and feel anger after a betrayal. However, if you dwell on these feelings, they can dominate your life. It’s important to express your pain and then learn to move on.
○ A physical activity that helps you release these emotions is to write them all on paper and then tear up or burn the paper to destroy it. You can also imagine that they blow away in the wind.
○ If you can control your emotions, then you can see the beauty of the world around you.
7. Learn to trust again. After a betrayal, you may have a difficult time trusting another person again. You may feel you can trust no one because they’re capable of hurting you.
○ Over time, it’s essential to learn to trust again and contact others.
○ Don’t go back to the person who betrayed you. However, trusting new people can help you heal.
○ Trusting again can show you that not everyone wants to hurt you. It can teach you to share your emotions again.
○ Trust can also help you build new and exciting relationships.
Past betrayals need not control your mind and emotions. Helping heal yourself speeds up your recovery and enables you to move on. Soon enough, instead of looking backward, you’ll look forward to the good things to come.